I scheduled a visit with my 12 year old daughter’s middle school to talk about her lack of challenge with the school curriculum. The principal recommended a meeting with her teachers. It was intimidating. Every one of her teachers was there, including an extra student teacher, the principal, and the school psychologist and then just me and my husband.
It was hard. I had concerns but I couldn’t get them heard. The teachers had their own ideas about what they wanted and we just kept talking past each other. I was talking about Hanover only having a few minutes of homework each night and still acing her tests without studying and the teachers would say that she doesn't "show what she knows", doesn't "talk more in class", doesn't jump immediately to do extra credit work.
The math teacher only focused on the one test where Hanover got a 75% (the rest were 90 and above). The English teacher had some nice words. The science teacher never once talked about Hanover's excellent test scores, just some assignments that were missing. The history teacher complained that Hanover didn't hand in an extra credit assignment and also ignored the rest of her performance in class.
When I tried to rephrase what the teachers were saying so I could understand it better, "so you're saying that Hanover's performance in school isn't impressive enough to consider changing her assignments?", the principal stated, firmly--I felt I had been admonished like a school child--that I was being insulting to the teachers. What? It was humiliating. The teachers claimed to care but, ultimately, nothing changed.
I left the meeting thinking my daughter's performance was sub-par only to look at her school records and see that she was earning high honors in 7th grade while doing almost nothing.